I am a self-proclaimed (public) unromantic; I am emotional person, nature loving, and an artsy. I have a big heart and love to be in love but I really, really hate public displays of romance, especially at a sports game. To me sports are all about basic animalistic nature, tackling, chasing, and survival of the fittest. Like separation of church and state, I believe these two acts, love and competition, should remain distant from each other.
The video link above is of a proposal at a Minnesota Swarm game which I watched with one of my roommates. Our takes on it were drastically different: I felt extremely uncomfortable and awkward and my roommate started crying…because it apparently was “really cute.” We obviously have two very different constructions of romance one more private and personal, which I feel is a deeper, more intimate display. And my roommate’s view that publicly announcing your love for another is a very bold and romantic way of showing to the other person, I’m committed.
I think Emily, the girl from the video, might be in the same camp as I am as her response to the proposal wasn’t a resounding YES! But instead, “I guess I have to, don’t I?” Meanwhile, her new finance looked very proud of himself and his rehearsed speech, grinning ear to ear. The cheerleaders in the background seemed to buy into the romance of a public proposal, shaking their pom-poms while ‘aww-ing’ every time he said something cutesy.
Obviously, this man was more concerned about the individual self than the stadium packed with strangers. Luckily for him his girlfriend agreed to marry him, despite her apparent discomfort of taking a private moment so public. This man sent the message out to the world that sports and romance do mix and you can live happily ever after at a Swarm game.
But in a relationship you may want to check how the other person feels about public romance or it may turn out a little something like this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFtDmtWoicY&NR=1
I like your example - it shows how "the romantic" can mean something entirely different depending on the individual. Everyone has their own opinion as to what it means, and no one opinion is the "right" one. It's all subjective!
ReplyDeleteWhen I watched this I felt very uncomfortable. "I guess I have to" is the worst response someone can have when you are getting proposed to. Maybe it wasn't her ideal way of getting proposed to or she is just a shy person in general and didn't know what to say. Either way the guy was super pumped about it and was excited to give everyone something to talk about. Maybe he wanted the attention of the proposal, but usually all the women get it.
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